Does Society Bring Us Up To Cheat Or Divorce?

The funny thing about life is that regardless of whether we think we know what we want or whether we don’t know what we want, the end result is generally the same… that you don’t get what you want.  Where you don’t know what you want, then you don’t get what you want.  But, where you think you know what you want, you may get what you want, but then realize that it isn’t exactly what you wanted.  Why?  Well, maybe you thought you wanted to be a doctor because you wanted to help people and make the world a better place, but when you become a doctor it is not as fulfilling as you thought it would be because you can only help one person at a time (and maybe you thought that you could have a bigger impact).

Especially in today’s world where we are flooded with so many options, you can often get confused with choices and end up choosing things that may be a reflection of desires, expectations and wants of those around us (parents, friends, teachers, etc.) and not a true reflection of ourselves.  Society brought us up to think achieving certain goals is good, while other aspirations are bad.  This gets me to one theory of why people divorce or cheat.  Maybe what they have isn’t what they thought it would be and now they think that they want something else.

Take, for example, a woman who grows up thinking she wants a job as a high rolling executive at a fortune 500 firm… she may think she needs a husband who is supportive or even likes her as this powerful executive.  But as time passes, her maternal instincts may kick in because her friends all start having kids and she wants some of her own.  At this stage she no longer wants the husband who wants her to work, but rather, she wants a sensitive man who prefer her to stay at home with the kids.  So she may end up leaving the man she is with to pursue her new-found desire.

So, when someone files for divorce, you shouldn’t automatically think that one person did something wrong, it may just be that one or both of the people involved finally shed concoctions about what they wanted and actually emancipate with knowledge of their true identity.


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