Lying About Their Intentions

On this week’s Bachelorette (does anyone still watch the show religiously?), Jillian confronted Wes about his girlfriend situation.  Wes, a striving musician, was alleged of going on the show to promote himself and his band.  That alone, is fine, but the gist is that he trifled with two girl’s hearts, lying to his girlfriend about his disappearance, and leading poor Jillian on.  Jillian went on the show hopeful to find someone to spend the rest of her life with, and Wes’ hidden agenda not only hurt her emotionally, but also denied some other guy his chance with her.

On the other hand, knowing that there are some producers out there who will make up any story to improve their ratings, I am not sure we should jump to conclusions so easily.  Could they be making all this up?  Who knows.

Nonetheless, I feel very bad for Jillian.  It looked like she really liked him.  What was more painful than being lied to and being used was being told he was starting to have feelings for her.  We can blame him and say how he’s an awful guy, but isn’t that like a lot of romantic comedies we all loved – “She’s All That” and “When Sally Met Harry”?

What would you do if someone had lied to you, and then be told that they have feelings for you now?   Is that acceptable?  My realistic answer will probably depend on how much I liked him.  I would like to be able to take the high road and say NFW, but come on, we always find excuses to justify our desires, regardless if they are right or wrong.

One Response to “Lying About Their Intentions”
  1. timshel1 says:

    Personally, after being through that emotional torture I’d probably say good riddance to Wes. I don’t have the time to waste on relationship games (I actually do have the time to waste on games, but I’d rather not put myself through that). If Wes is having such a hard time developing those feelings and is willing to try and promote his band via Bachelorette/possibly have a girl on the side tells me he’s not ready to be in a serious relationship. That’s just poor character.

    It is easy to find excuses to justify our desires. But I’ve found that those justifications normally come from the flesh, and not the soul. I’m after my soul mate, not just bed buddy. It’s still hard to take the high road, but staying with a guy like Wes is destined to fail.

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