Sugar Daddies And Sugar Babies


After reading the 7-page article from the NYTimes about seekingarrangement.com, I was shocked at how liberal I am to the concept.  The site, intentionally not linked, is similar to match.com, but with a clear understanding that the sugar daddies provide the sugar babies with some sort of financial incentive (in the form of cash and/or gifts) for their “companionship.”  Though at first read, I thought it was absolutely awful, nothing more than a legalized form of prostitution that a once rejected M.I.T. alumnus created (no offense to the school, I have a great deal of friends from the revered institution).  However, after a closer read, I came to the following conclusions.

  1. Wives of wealthy, and successful men who turn a blind eye on their husband’s cheating ways are equally as deserving of the title of a prostitute / sugar baby, call it whatever you want.  Exceptions are those who honestly turn the blind eye to protect their children.  Though, I would question how happy of an upbringing that would be for the children, but that’s for another post
  2. Some sugar babies actually do partake to fund their college education.  Though I neither advocate, nor condemn it, I can understand it.  In all honesty, what these girls are doing is not any more unethical than dating someone for money.  Actually, I might even go as far as to say that these girls are more respectable than those who date, and marry for money.  The prior is a quid pro quo, both parties know what they are getting from the transaction, the latter is mere deception using the illusion of “love.”   Personally, I believe playing with someone else’s emotions is just wrong, and karma has a good memory!
  3. There are some nice guys on the site as well; those looking for companionship sans quotation marks.  One gentleman actually voluntarily subsidized one girl’s education, without expectation (or ever meeting her)
  4. From what I can tell, and I could be completely wrong, many of the “couples” who see each other via the site are somewhat “monogamous” with each other.  I don’t know if that is a good thing or a bad thing, as many of the sugar daddies are “happily” married, living in Connecticut, with children.  It’s one thing when it’s all physical; it’s a completely different story when emotions, and feelings are involved.

So what to make of this whole thing?  It’s not so bad, and nothing we don’t already know.  But it did shed new light on the subject.

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